Before you ask questions about life or other people, try asking some questions about yourself.  Who are you?   Are you your job, religion, wealth, health, family?  What else do you identify with?  Could it be that truly knowing yourself goes far deeper that your beliefs and concepts you hold dear. Is it possible that underneath these ideas you are part of God –part of the universe?

Instead of the thoughts that exist in your mind could be that who you really are is not what you think but what your actions and reactions reveal.  If you are at peace and your actions and behavior reflect that than that is who you are. This is conscious thinking. If you have a lot of anger inside and you act with anger, than who you really are is an angry person.  This is unconscious thinking.