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The struggle for life is ever-present in this image.   The birds, dolphins, and sharks all want to eat the small fish in the bait ball just below.   They want nothing more than to survive.  The same goes to the small fish that are being devoured.   The good news is that their passing will give other life the energy they need to survive.  The circle of life in the sea is both cruel and beautiful.

Eat or be eaten

Eat or be eaten

Humans don’t have to dive amongst sharks and birds for dinner as we have supermarkets to purchase our food.  Each of us has a choice to eat food that has been grown and harvested in a particular manner, that is organic, non- GMO, that has been processed, or not been processed, that contains high fructose corn syrup,  natural sugar, artificial sugar, fat, non-fat, fast food, and more…….

What we eat has a direct impact on how we feel and on our environment.  Smart choices help our bodies thrive and leave a gentle footprint on your body and the planet. Unhealthy choices lead to polluting your body and our environment.

With diabetes and heart disease ever-present in our world wide communities, choosing the right food has never been more important.  Limiting sugars, fast food, soda, and processed foods are great ways to live healthier.

Food for thought……….


Image provided by Douglas J Hoffman


It is a new day and new year and with it comes new energy. There has never been a better time than now.   The past is over and the future has not yet arrived. All there really is – is now. So now is the time to look around and take stock of your blessings.

Do not give time to what is lacking, or how you failed  in your life. That kind of thinking will only bring you more of the same.  That is because what you think about tends to show up. Its one of those seldom known universal laws.  That said, the more you maintain a positive mindset the more good things will show up in your life circumstance.

Happy new year everyone!

2013 was the most challenging year of my life. It was also a very good year in that I learned a lot about myself. As 2013, is about to end, I want to say how grateful I am for all the support I have received from friends and family.  This year I learned about forgiveness, acceptance, awareness, and how important it is to live each day and not dwell on the past or fear the future.   I live in the present, plan for the future, and forgive the past.

I begin 2014 as a divorced father of two, and look forward to working with my ex in order to raise our girls with love. I am so fortunate that we ended our marriage in a fair and friendly manner, which will serve us both well as we move forward in our lives.  I wish every success in her career and happiness in her life.

I plan to continue writing this blog with the desire to be of service to other people and to share my insight, stories, and thoughts about life, love, and living in peace.

Happy new year everyone!

Wishing everyone a year full of love and peace

Wishing everyone a year full of love and peace


Whatever is going on in your life, and whatever your life circumstance happens to be that is real. You can accept it as what is, or you can deny it.  This is how life works.  Everyone has issues and problems.  It is how we deal with them that allows us to live with love and peace.  When we accept what is it might mean we need to forgive ourselves or others for what is going on.

We all make mistakes, that is part of being human, but the mistakes we make do not define who we are. It is how we react, and learn from the mistakes we make that define who we really are. Remember the past is done there is no going back. The present is what is happening now, and the future has not yet arrived.   We can help create our future by taking action in the present.

This applies to relationships, emotions, career, health, fun, and how we deal with adversity.  Life need not be discouraging, in fact it can be exciting. It is all a matter of of we deal with things and the actions or reactions we have to situations that arise, goals we have made, our core values and beliefs.  Faith, belief, and self esteem help us work through issues and find love and peace.

Tell your kids to be themselves.  Do not mimic or copy other people. Each person is unique and has wonderful qualities within, but these qualities cannot be expressed if your too busy trying to be someone else.  Something your not.  Let your inner creativity, talent, and gifts to the world rise to the surface.

One way to do this is to listen to your inner voice rather than your friends or what actors on t.v. say.    What would it be like growing up if all the kids were the same?  Life is exciting because we are all different and unique. Another way is not to give in to peer or social pressure.  If a friend pierces their nose, or has their head colored red, does not mean its the cool thing to do.  It just means your friend is trying different things to establish their own identity.

As your kids grow up to be teenagers they will have pressure to drink, smoke, have sex, or try drugs.  Why you cant control their behavior you can teach them now to be themselves.  This will pay off in dividends as they will make good choices and you will have less grey hair. 

Kids will make mistakes.  Everyone does and it is part of the human experience.  However its important to know that we are not our mistakes.  Realize that people learn from their mistakes and be better for it.

As always your thoughts and comments are welcome.

I am so thankful and grateful that so many people are reading and liking my blog entries. I started writing to be of service and to inspire people to live with love and peace.  For me it is a way to as the saying goes, “pay it forward”.  I have written about 50 posts and have received positive feedback from many people.  Writing has become part of my routine and I enjoy thinking of ways to share what I have learned that have had a positive impact on the quality of my life and those that I am in contact with. I have learned that the more you give the more you receive.

May you all live with love and peace.

Love is the most important element of life.  Love of self, love for others, love for nature, love of life.With love, belief, hope, and faith all things are possible.   I love therefor I am!

Getting to the place where you love yourself takes effort, and the ability to look within.  To forgive the past and accept what is going on now. Everyone that is alive has the capacity to love.  We just need to awaken it.

So wake up and let the love in!

I am going through a hard time in my life.  For almost 8 months my life circumstance has been testing me.  I am in a place I do not want to be and there is nothing I can do about it. During this time I have embarked on a voyage of self discovery and have awakened my inner spirituality.  Mediation, prayer, affirmations, and hope have helped me stay for positive, learn to love myself, love others and be of service to others.  While proud of what I have accomplished, I still have a ways to go.

Today I was expecting some good news, and it did not come. as a result I got a bit depressed.  I spoke with my sister about it and she was very understanding and tried to remind me that I am  loved and that in time my situation will improve.  I love her so much for her never ending support.  We should all be so lucky to have a sister like I have.  Little did I know but she confided my feelings to a close friend and sent me the letter below. It helped me alot.  I hope it is of value to those that read it too.


I think it’s normal to pass through this kind of process.  Depression comes when we think something will happen in our lives and then it does not.  It can be in the form of people disappointing us,  feeling as if we the world is against us, thinking that everything bad happens to us, etc.  This is what happens when the ego sneaks up on us and takes over our mind and throws a dark cloak over our essence.  Everything you are as a wonderful person is still there, but the ego will not allow you to see it.  It feels like it has to protect itself against your true self.

When this happens you need to be the observer of the ego, or of the mind.  The chatter that the ego creates in our mind can overwhelm us if we allow it.  And rather than fight with it (which is what the ego wants) we should view it as something of a child throwing a tantrum.  We look at that the child and allow the child to act out,  viewing  the child from the outside without opinion.   This is how you should look at your ego which is throwing a tantrum inside you head.  And if you fight with it it will win.  If you observe that this is happening inside your mind, again, being the observer of your ego, then your essence will once again reveal itself, and the child will begin to stop with the tantrum.  Once the ego is found out it gives up.  This is the process of being present in practice.  We laugh at the child who throws a fit because we see it for what it is.  The same for the ego.  We see it for what it is.  All the ego wants is pain, and attention, and pity, and the indulgence in negative emotions.
As you are alone think to yourself about your problems and ask the question.  As I am sitting here is there any problem I have at this moment.  Is my life in danger?  Am I going to die?  Do I have to defend myself against someone?  The answer is mostly no.  At this moment I have nothing that is affecting me now that warrant any of the emotions I am thinking about.  Your mind is turning out one movie after another, none of which will ever come true.  It’s all made up.  Every last movie.  The only movie that’s real is the one that playing right now in front of you.  There is no other show in town but the one you are playing in at the moment.  So, though it may seem most difficult when the child in your mind is throwing a tantrum, this is the time to be most attentive and observant of your presence.  This is the REAL test.  Not a rehearsal.  And we have all been there and done that to varying degrees.  Unless we are the buddha we learn from originally  not knowing.  We cannot know what light is unless we have the darkness to give us a yardstick to measure it by.  But in the depth of your soul your essence is always there to bring you home.
So, now you have the ability to choose what it is you want to pay attention to.  Continue in pain?  You can do that until it becomes too much and you release yourself.  Eventually you will.  Why not shorten the time frame and choose to do it now instead of maybe in an hour, or a day, or even week.  The time won’t make any difference.  The sooner you let go of ego and come home the less energy will be consumed by “the dark side”.  Come out of the darkness of the small room and into the light of the big room.
Thank you for this letter my friend. It has helped me stop feeling depressed. In fact now I am again feeling love and hope.  I will read this letter often to remind me to stay present.  I am so grateful and appreciative to have you in my life.
Well I hope all of you that took the time to read this, benefit from it as I did.  I hope you all live with love and peace.

I used to be selfish and now I know better.  Being of service, helping others, supporting charity, teaching, sharing, using my god given talent, skill and ability serve my higher self and benefit the world.  In turn these aspects of my life come back & benefit me.  Indeed the more you give the more you get. I am not referring to money. I am referring to love.  Love of self, love to others, and love of nature.

Like many people around the world my sense of self was a reflection of my childhood.  My parents were divorced when I was young and I was exposed to negative thinking, fear of lack, being separate, hate, anger, & frustration. While these emotions affected my sense of self, reactions, and behavior, they are not a true reflection of who I am. Nor are they a true reflection of my parents.  They had their own childhoods to deal that formed their behavior patterns.  Both did their best and I know they had and have great love for me. I also love them.  I speak of this only to share and encourage others to deal with their past.  I am not complaining.

My sense of self was also influenced by movies, t.v. magazines, newspapers, and friends. Wearing a certain kind of shoes or pants does not make the person.  Neither does a particular hair style. Society and peer pressure manipulate our thinking, and ego, and as a result create a false reality.  Who I am is not a function of how I dress or look.  It’s what is inside me.

My ego used to be in control but now I am.  As a result the my emotional baggage, and feelings of being separate are gone.   I love myself, and all living beings. Now I am part of something bigger.  My hope is for others to realize they are not alone.  Love is what life is all about. We are all in this world together.

All for one and one for all!